From Becoming Minimalist ...
By Seth Riley
Up until a month ago, it seemed like everyone else in the world was getting what we’ve always wanted.
Every time we opened social media, there they were: taking some
awesome trip, fielding the opportunities we ought to have gotten,
achieving what we only dream of.
Meanwhile, we sat on our couches, missing out on everything. Even
worse, it felt as if this cycle would continue forever. Given the
constant advance of technology, it seemed pretty impossible that any of
this overwhelm would lessen anytime soon.
But these days, there is a lot less to miss out on. Everything has
been cancelled and, for a while, we’re all living the same shut-in life.
It’s hard, in the thick of this global tragedy, to see many
positives. So many people are horrifically sick, and so many others are
reeling from the sudden loss of their livelihoods. Despite the many
encouraging shifts in society—the refocus on community, the renewed
sense of our shared humanity—this is just a tough, scary time.
Yet, as with any sort of catastrophic event, there are small mercies
even in the midst of the anxiety and loss. And, to me, one of the most
life-giving positives emerging from this disaster is that we have been
given a break from the constant sense that we’re missing out on life.
Now that our digital feeds are quieting down from the constant
barrage of “everyone’s eating at cool restaurants, attending events,
sitting on the beach, having the time of their lives, or buying that
thing we’ve always wanted,” we’ve been given a precious opportunity.
We suddenly have the freedom to evaluate our lives with almost no external pressure to keep up.
All of the voices that tell us, 24/7, that we are not enough are, to a large extent, gone.
For right now, we’re all relative equals living very similar lives.
The celebrities we spend our days idolizing are stuck in their houses
too. They are in their living rooms as we are in ours. Maybe we go out
for a walk. Maybe we have to run out to Trader Joe’s. But, the rest of
the time, we’re all just at home.
For the next while, there’s nothing we’re missing out on. If you have
your health, if you have a roof, and if you have people to love, you
are incredibly blessed.
This is a rare chance to take stock. Through all of the anxiety, we
still have the option to start practicing those values we usually ignore
and, with all of the closures and cancellations, we have been given the
blankest slate we can ever expect to receive.
Given the opportunity to clear the decks, to perform a hard reset on
our lives, we can emerge from this tragic historical moment as better
versions of ourselves.
But, to do this, we have to use this interim time well. We have to be
willing to truly cut ties with our unhealthy patterns and to replace
our taste for FOMO-driven distraction with something better. And, most
important, we need to take a deep—and probably uncomfortable—dive into
ourselves to root out those things holding us back from being who we are
truly meant to be.
It’s often hard to make changes in our lives because we usually have the option
not
to. But, tragedy has a way of jarring us toward clarity. Now that
everything has been paused, we have a chance to re-align our actions
with our values.
So, what will we do?
We could begin with our families. We always claim that our families
are our number one priority. Yet, how often do we put them on the back
burner?
We could refocus on our creativity, finding ways to use our talents to bring life to the people around us.
We could make time to slow down, to enjoy the many blessings in our
lives, to spend less time looking at the horizon and more time enjoying
the things immediately around us.
Only you can know the right answer.
Life is precious, beautiful, and limited.
Start being the
you that you have been missing out on.